Yay Us!

 Jared is home for Christmas! 

Since it is the 24 th here,  I want to say to everyone have a happy Christmas.  Treasure your family time.  Remember those alone and away from their families.

Sheng Dan Kuai Le! 

Finally

 Winter break is here! No more teaching! No more books! No more student's empty looks! Well, they are not all that bad but there are a couple I often wonder.

Christmas approaches and Jared remains at home. I hope saying that does not curse it. We have not enjoyed a holiday together this year so we are timidly looking forward to this one. Monday may see a short trip out until Wednesday but short trips have often morphed into long trips. We are holding our breath.

Our tree for the year is beautiful. This is why having someone else do the tree for me is an appealing idea. Storing the ornaments to use only once per year is a bit much. We have certain ornaments that we keep but it is not near what is on the tree. We do save some space though. Mizu is like any cat and plays with anything low on the tree so we keep the bottom sparse with only a few baubles for her to bat around. It preserves the rest of the tree. June is fascinated by the tree. Especially when the house lights are off and only the tree is lit. She will watch the lights sparkle until she falls asleep. It seems the tree is a good baby sitter for when I need do some task about the house.

Shopping is done but we still await arrival of packages. We are guaranteed delivery before Christmas but I believe everyone knows the anxiety of arrivals being so close. We (I) should have ordered them sooner. It is only that I did not see them sooner. One of the packages is a diaper bag for Jared. He does not care for the "girlie" bag I carry so I have gotten him a "tactical diaper bag" from Tactical Baby Gear so he does not somehow feel emasculated carrying mine. I have warned him though; it will be his responsibility to maintain the supplies in his bag. 

Here is crossing fingers hoping Jared's trip out will return as scheduled and he remains home until after Christmas, though after the new year would be better.

Another Good Day

 We enjoyed another good day yesterday. We spent the afternoon at Mikasa Park. The park is named for an the old Japanese battleship name Mikasa. It is a large ship but not as large as modern ships. Still, it is interesting to see.

Chao lei was most fascinated by it. He asked MANY questions of the tour guide. She was very patient with his lack of command of Japanese. Fortunately, she spoke English as well. Chao lei remained insistent of using what Japanese he knows, using English only as a last resort. I applaud him in his reasoning; our guide was in her country. Why should she speak English? He amazes me sometimes.

The mural was my favorite thing of the entire park. The pictures seemed almost photos. The artists were very talented. Of course, I prefer to walk outside when I may so that may have been an influence on my preference. The inside of the ship is nice, I suppose. But a naval ship remains a naval ship. It certainly could not have accurately reflected the ship when it was in use. It was too clean. Jared's ship has a laundry for a reason.

After spending the morning there, we enjoyed some walking. We spent most of our time on the Blue Road wandering from shop to shop. We did this until June tired of riding in her father's carrier. It is his because it is "tactical." Its appearance is that of a military ruck sack. I refuse to use it preferring my Moby.

June is becoming better at being in a carrier. She did not much care for it in the beginning. Alas for her, if she is to be in this family, she will need to become accustomed to going places even if only for a walk.

We have a nice trail hike for tomorrow. The weather is expected to cooperate but it is much like the Navy; expected is not necessarily guaranteed.

First Outing

 We have enjoyed our first outing as a family. We chose the Yokosuka City Museum of Nature and Human Culture. It is not far from our house so we were able to walk to it. It was a pleasant walk.

The Japanese are very fond of their museums which made it surprising that they were so empty. I suppose it can be blamed on CoVid but it still strikes me as odd since masks are a matter of normal practice for many people in Japan if only for the sometimes heavy pollution or perceived threat of illness.

The museum is free, which is a good price. lol  Most important was Chao lei enjoyed it. Mostly. Some parts were very boring for him. We could knew this because he was not shy in telling us so. Seeing the daily living items of people past did not much interest him.

Bugs and bones were his favorite areas to see. How he saw anything surprises me. He excitedly ran from display to display only to do it again and again. He did apparently absorb what he saw as he recounted everything as we walked home. He remembered details I did not even see.

Our walk home took us through a park that we stopped at to let Chao lei run some energy off. I believe Mikasa Park is our goal for today. There are a few things to see there. The largest, and I believe the most interesting (to Chao lei at the least), will be the battleship, Mikasa.

Since Jared could get only a week leave, we are doing our best to make good the promise of family time. We will need to research for other parks within our liberty area but it is Japan. It should not be difficult. If all else fails, we can have an interesting day at the docks watching the activities of the port.

Leave Time

 Now that the major exercises are complete, Jared is applying for leave. It is not that there are many places we could travel to but that is not his plan. We are going to spend time together to make up for the time he was away.

The officially observed Thanksgiving was enjoyable for us at home. We had our solo sailor. She proved to be very likeable and someone whom I would enjoy knowing better. Chao lei apparently likes her company. Where she was he was the entire day. For someone with no children, she was very adept in her understanding of what Chao lei was doing. The only thing our day was missing was Jared.

To have memories of family holidays, we enjoyed a second Thanksgiving when Jared returned. It is tiring to prepare two holiday meals so close together. lol We had the traditional dinner that most would recognize but again we had some of my favorite foods included. Jared and I both enjoy blending our heritage where we can. We had the turkey of course but with a twist. It was prepared Cantonese style with hoisin sauce, sweet bean sauce, garlic, shallot, ginger, and stuffed with tangerine peels. There were also guotie (pot stickers) and honey-hoisin sweet potatoes. No one may acuse us of being normal I suppose.

If Jared gets his leave, we will remain home and be together. We will hike where we may, together. Together is the operating word in all we will do. Winter is not the best time to make our memories but we will make them when we can. Spring will arrive soon enough and hopefully we will be past all the restrictions, or at least, past many of them. We will depend heavily on the MWR office to discover activities we can do.

We had a short scare with June and this shows importance of communication. It seems Chao lei was lazy to get a cup and got a bottle instead and filled it with milk. Cow milk. Since he did not finish it, he placed it in the fridge. Jared, thinking it was June's bottle, heated it and put a nipple on it instead of waking me to feed her. Junes little belly swelled and she was in obvious discomfort so I took her to the pediatrician where, upon her vomiting, we discovered she was full of milk. We also discovered she is lactose intolerant to the extreme. The following diapers were not fun.

Now Jared knows, I do not express milk to a bottle unless I am going out. I certainly do not leave the bottle open in the fridge when I do. Chao lei knows he is not to use a bottle again unless I or his father send him for one. June has returned to her normally happy self. All is well now. Jared has sworn he will ask questions whenever he is going to do anything with June. He feels guilt for having been the one who gave the cow milk. For such a strong man, he can be such a softie.

Moving Along

 Once again there will be a holiday without Jared. At least, he will not be here for the proper day. we have planned our family day for after the ship's return. Meanwhile, we will also observe Thursday. I could not bear the thought of not doing so for at least one sailor that is alone. I will have a female Lieutenant as a guest. I will also host Dorothy since her husband is away also. Poor Chao lei will be surrounded by females for the day. lol

I have been required to stand in for a couple of professors as they have been out ill. They were not covid but in today's environment, the administration takes no chances. I am almost afraid to sneeze or cough for fear I will be tested yet again. If tests were vaccines, I would be immune to everything for having been subjected to so many; five so far. I pray that I do not contract flu again.

I watch the news. The news sources are always talking about how the government is taking sexual harassment seriously. I hear admirals speaking of how it is a very serious subject and there is no tolerance for it. I hear of sexual harassment training in the base paper. I have been told it is a mandatory class in basic training. If all of these things are true, why does sexual harassment remain? I am not speaking of simple or minor missteps. There will always be small things that are not worth being offended for. I am speaking of overt "in your face" sexual harassment.

Yesterday, a young sailor (I assume sailor as he was in civilian clothes and on a naval base) said to me "You are a hot little thing. You look like you would be fun. Want to spend some time with me?" The look on his face made me very uncomfortable. Even Chao lei moved to a place between him and me, his behavior was so blatant. What would he have done without my children being present? 

Has this person somehow escaped all of the training? Why does he believe this behavior would be acceptable to any woman. I have thought of reporting this to CFAY but without a name I believe it would be a fruitless endeavor.  I have never been uncomfortable while on base as I was in that moment. In fact, I still find myself looking for that face again to avoid it or perhaps see something that would identify him. Jared has certainly been told of this event though there is little he can do at sea. It is not as the time I was called "a little bfm", (which I still do not know what it is), when Jared was present and he did not respond well to it.

I am more conscious now of where I am and who is near. Not afraid, just more aware. More aware is good anyway.

 I was reminded to make my appointment for my tree for this year. I pay someone to set up and decorate my Christmas tree. I know, it is lazy of me to do this but after the first I was spoiled. The reminder was timely. It would seem the woman I have used in the past has been discovered and her time fills up quickly. When I called to schedule she had only three more settings she could do this year. I am one of those final three. I am scheduled for November 28. It seems a little soon for me but I suppose I can cope with that.

Martus does a wonderful job with trees. She provides the ornaments but if you have certain ornaments you wish to be included, she will ensure they are there on the tree. I have some I wish to be included but I leave it to her to decided how it is done. She has not disappointed me yet. The first tree she did for me was beautiful and since Jared's presence is never guaranteed, I have continued to be lazy and call her. A plus for hiring her to do this is that she also will acquire the tree, decorate it, break it down and dispose of it. Do you see how lazy I am now?

When we lived in Pensacola, Jared and I would do this for ourselves. Since he would be home, we used it as time together as family knowing that it would not always be so later. Chao lei has asked when we will fetch our tree. I have told him of my plans. He was disappointed in the beginning but being him, he decided we will see how this year goes before deciding how we acquire next year's tree. He astounds me with his logic sometimes. 

Martus is an ex pat here in Yokosuka. She lives not far from me and will not be required to experience all of the technicalities of a civilian accessing the base since I remain off base this tour. I see her now and then around the shops in town so it is surprising that I could forget to call her earlier. Perhaps it is because of June's birth. I was distracted? That is a fine excuse. I believe I will remain with that story.

Change is on the horizon though we do not know what that change will be. Jared has simply been told there may be change coming soon. We have ideas. We know what we hope for. We wait for the Navy to decide.

Then and Now

 Occasionally, I sit and think of where I am versus where I have been.

I am a mother of two, wife of a US Navy Commander, university teacher and citizen of the United States. All four of these thing were by my choice. I could not be more satisfied with these things. They are a far cry from what I was and would likely have been had I made different choices.

I was a simple Chinese girl that did not expect much from life. I could expect to be a wife and mother. That was what my culture taught me. It is not that there is anything wrong being a wife and mother. I love that it is what I am. But in China, that is what you existed to be. In the west, I am more.

I am able to achieve goals for myself that would have been near impossible in China. I would not be a professor of computer science in a Chinese university. At best I could be an assistant. I would not be a Navy Commander's wife in China. My family was comfortable by Chinese standards but they could not afford to marry me to a naval officer. I am a mother to two children. Until recently, I would have been restricted to only one.

I continue to giggle each time I hear that China's "One Child" policy has been relaxed. This policy accounted for untold numbers of girl infants left to die because they were not sons. Now, there is a shortage of Chinese women for Chinese men to marry.

I have come far. I would change nothing of this long walk. I have had difficult times as everyone does. Still, the path was worth it. The good far exceeds the bad.

I Will Never Understand

 If you did not know, I am not an natural born citizen. I immigrated (legally) to the US almost twenty years ago and was naturalized in 2005. Part of that process was learning of this country, its customs and its privileges. One of those privileges is voting.

We could vote in China but that vote meant nothing since it was the government that decided who the candidate was. Even then, one could only vote in local elections. We had no say to the national leadership. Here in America, each person has a say in the leadership of the nation. Why do so many not exercise this right to help choose their government? I am lost for the reason. 

I hear many complain of what officials they have yet they refuse to participate in elections. Each have their reasons; some not as convincing as others. But how can you complain if you have intentionally not participated? You have said "I do not have a preference."

Today, for those of us in Japan, election day. For those in CONUS it is tomorrow. It is the day to decide what this nation is to be. Voting is a privilege. It is one not everyone has.

Contented

 Funny how one pays a professional to make photos and the favorite is one taken by a non-professional. 

Jared made this picture as I was retrieving June to feed her. He took it without my knowledge, edited it and framed it. Now it is my favorite and I wonder of paying for others. To be fair, the woman we hired did not have unfettered access to June and I. Jared does. The laws of chance were on his side. That he converted it to black and white makes it more intimate I believe.

Now the greatest difficulty is choosing which photos of the professional will grace our walls and table tops. I wonder if I can convince her to convert one or two of her photos to black and white? Would that be akin to asking an artist to repaint a painting to suit me? Then again, why bother? Jared seems to have some talent to take photos. I should put him to work recording his children growing up.

Our days have been pleasant with only some clouds. We decided a hike was in order so we went to Kawakubo Park. The hike can be as long as you wish but it is very popular so one must choose to ignore the sometimes crowd. As a reward though, at the end of the hike is a wonderful noodle shop where one may order a bowl of hot broth with udon. I am VERY fond of udon noodles.

Jared returned home with pockets full of Chao lei's sticks, leaves and pebbles that were discovered and deemed as absolutely essential to his well being. Jared considered that Chao lei would soon forget what was picked up but he quickly discovered a young boy does not pick up things and forgets what it was and why it was important enough to be picked up. When we returned to the car, Chao lei asked for very specific items he had picked up only to discover his father no longer had them. Jared sheepishly explained that he "had a hole in his pocket and they fell out." Now I believe he understands why I usually have a pocket full of  "trash" when Chao lei and I return from a walk. I let him decide what to keep. Hopefully, his father has learned to do that also.

Rumors increase. Every captain is getting fired and every non-captain is getting a ship. It is nonsense. I believe it is more likely some captains are up for rotation. It is a natural event. One does not captain a ship permanently. They may not leave the theater but they do not remain in place aboard one ship. I will admit that I hope Jared is selected to a ship. He has finished command school and met all requirements. We will see though. I am proud of him in whatever way he serves but an evil part of me wishes for him to command a ship soon. It would quiet an overly loud sister-in-law bragging of my brother's new position. I suppose I must be the adult though and keep the evil part of me under control.

I think Saturday we will go to Taura Plum Park. I am told it is a good hike and there is an obstacle course for children at the top. It is supposed to be a sunny day.

Almost Normal. Almost

Jared has discovered the hazards of keeping June alone. I do not believe he will volunteer to keep her alone all day again. It is not that June is difficult to keep for me. He is not accustomed to someone who does not do as he says because he said it. Well, he is accustomed to me but I have been the exception since he cannot punish me as he could one of his sailors and he does not care to be sworn at in Mandarin. I did spy him walking her though. She seemed quite happy to be out with him.

As a family, we are settling into our new routine. The major exercises are over for the year so we are returning to normal movements. I wonder if this year Jared will have dinner with Mother and Father again as the ship does port visits. Other than that, he goes to work and returns home each day. Almost as a normal husband! lol

Chao lei is happy his father is home but already asks when he leaves again. He has not learned as I have to not ask since the answer is always the same; I do not know. Of course, he has school now. We are fortunate that the DoD school system here has returned to in person attendance. Chao lei has rediscovered his enjoyment of school. He was becoming disenchanted with home school, or perhaps it was me. Regardless, the return to school was just in time. The Xbox is suffering from lack of use now. I return to news of how his day was,, what he and Scotty did, his "girlfriend Sade, and how nice his teacher, Miss Hatherill, is so nice.

I find I am becoming fond of remote instruction. Perhaps too much. It is easy to become used to a Zoom lecture. Not having endless questions as one attempts to teach is much easier and that only occurs in Zoom. The downside is learning is easier in person so lectures at the university are more productive for students. I suppose it is not about me though.

Now if we could only get the Navy to cease Covid restrictions, we will be normal again. I know, wishful thinking.

We Are Getting Closer

 Today is my day. It is a day to do as I wish. 

Jared is home and has received today free of work.  He has claimed today as his day with June to enjoy father/ daughter time. What will they do is unknown to me. 

A step closer to normal for us is Chao lei returns to in person education today. No more staying home with remote learning! It is a good thing since he was becoming uninterested in his school work. I will take him to school this morning then be free for the afternoon. 

I am not sure to relax for this yet.  It is the Navy, after all. It is notorious for change. One small event could change it all. 

What will I do with my day? I have no idea. To be sure, a lengthy walk around the base is inevitable. That is bit so boring as it may sound. There are many lovely places in base. One may sit and watch the harbor activities. They are not strictly military ships moving about the harbor. There are several parks. As I have said before, the Japanese are fond of parks. That fondness has been carried onto the base. 

If all else proves lacking, I can go shopping on the Blue Road. There are many shops to visit. Who knows, perhaps I will finally visit the kimono shop and see if there is one to suit me.

Excepting the mask and distancing mandates, it is almost as if, at least in the immediate area around the base, we are nearly normal. 

Now, it is time to deliver Chao lei to school, wish Jared good day and kiss June and begin my solo day. 

A Good Day

 It can be surprising how enjoyable it is to just sit and watch. Watching the tugs move about the harbor is surprisingly relaxing.  They are as bees hustling about accomplishing their deeds with determination. Even the occasional rain sprinkle cannot change my mood. Chao lei is enjoying watching the harbor's activities.  

June is happy as usual providing I give her attention often enough. She also insists I speak to her often. So much so that if one were to visit my house it would be unnerving for them to witness my new habit of "talking to no one." I find it is as if  am narrating my life for some unseen audience. 

I must wonder of Jared's thoughts of this. He will probably just consider it another strange thing his wife does. Before he can do that though, he must be home. The Navy has kept him busy this summer. It is hopeful that when he does return they will allow him to remain for more than only a week this time. 

I am happy though.  The harbor is relaxing. My babies are happy and healthy. My husband will come home... eventually.  What more could I ask for?

I have heard news and have seen pictures of the fires at home. Mother and father Bing have lost their cabin near Gates. It is fortunate for them their home is intact. Heather's home is intact as is mine. The concerns for us is the health of the horses. The air has been consistently rated as "Hazardous." Occasionally, they improve to "Very Unhealthy." 

Peevey, my horse, has begun wheezing which is not a good thing considering his age. He is receiving medications but if the smoke does not clear soon, his condition will worsen to permanency. If that occurs, his life will be one of always being unable to breath properly and that would slowly kill him. There would be no choice but to put him down. We will see.

I am recovering nicely and have taken to walks around the base, even my favorite walk by the docks. I must reacquire my stamina. The last weeks of bedrest have taken their toll. I will not mention the baby fat I must now contend with. I hope to do at least two hikes before the end of Autumn. Early Autumn weather is warm and mostly dry but after half way it is rainy and cold. Hiking with June will not be practical.

Of course, hikes depend on Jared's presence. He arrived shortly after June was born but a week later was gone again. How long this time? Who knows. I do know I am tempted to open the paint cans and begin decorating June's room since it may be some time before her father is home long enough to do it. I Have messaged him of it because it needs to be done soon if it is to be done at all. 

I t seems June will have a devoted brother. I am happy to say he is usually ahead of me when June makes any sound and is concerned of her wellbeing; even to the point of disrespect of me. I am careful to reassure Chao lei that his concerns for her are good but I also remind him disrespect is not acceptable. He is not the parent but we are a team. I believe he is finding his place in the life of his sister.

Remote teaching for the university is beginning well so far. I have a very flexible schedule for it. There are times I am required to be online though. It is usually for lectures and such. Most lecture I can prerecord but some require more interaction. Next week I will actually visit my office on campus. Hopefully, housekeeping has kept the dust at bay.

We will adjust to a new routine that includes three (four when Jared is home). We will continue being a Navy family.

Changes to Celebrate?

Things begin to loosen again. Venues open again. Travel is less restricted again. There is tomorrow though so things may change. It is the Navy, change is normal. June is remaining quiet and content. She seems to be a happy baby by disposition. This is a good thing for me. I am resting more which was not the case with Chao lei. A photo session has been scheduled for her first pictures. Jared was unable to work on her room beyond assembling her bed. He arrived home and is again gone. One thing has us questioning the future. Jared's detailer is vague when asked of our next assignment. He claims "something" is not complete so he cannot accurately detail him. We have our suspicions. Rumors are notoriously unreliable but many times there is a kernel of truth to be found. One of those rumors is several ships will be rotating command soon due to retirements and promotion. Jared has completed his schools. He has met all of his qualifications. He has been an XO long enough for experience and in his fitness reports, his captain has recommended him to advance. Adding rumor to deduction, the "something" could be the possibility of Jared getting command of a ship. I remind myself, it is only rumor and guessing but it is a thrilling thought. His rank will not change any time soonsince he does not have sufficient time as a commander but his title would change to Captain. If it should be that this is, I would probably be annoyingly proud. June's pictures will come soon. I promise.

June Bao is Here

She is so sweet. And quiet! (So far) 

She was born on the 24th at 2358. Two more minutes and she would have shared Father Bing's birthday. She is 18.25 inches and 7.1 pounds.

Once again,  Jared will leave the ship first to greet his daughter then immediately return to complete his duties before returning home. When this will happen remains a mystery since there is no word of a return yet. 

Meanwhile, I will rest. A picture is coming. 

All Night and Morning Long

 I have tried but it has been a night and morning of contractions. They do not lessen. In fact, they increase in severity as they come ever closer.  It seems Jared will lose the race. Again. 

I am between the two desires of my heart. One is to get June out of me.  I wish to see her face and hold her in my arms. I will not lie. I also wish the pain to stop but mostly, I wish to hold her. 

Then there is the other desire that Jared is present for her birth. He was not for Chao lei and I saw the regret he had for not being there. What he did to make amends was driven too much by guilt. Love was a driver but guilt more. I do not wish such for him. 

I also worry of Chao lei. Not for the birth. We have discussed that very much and I believe he understands what is to happen. My worry is when his father comes home and focuses on June, which would be natural I think. I worry if he will feel ignored or less than his sister. 

Jared has been an amazing father. I believe he will work out how to do this but a mother worries of these things. 

I do believe I will not finish this day as a mother of one but two. Jared will return when he returns and will be among the first to leave the ship even if only long enough to see his daughter. 

Here We Go Again

 The base is beginning to lock down again. I am allowed to go from home to the base and back only, and horror of horrors, the beaches are again closed. Almost everything off-base is off-limits. Yay.

It is not as if I have been enjoying any freedom anyway. June has me laying or reclining somewhere. It is difficult at times to sit up enough to see my laptop. Especially since I usually do not have one. lol (well, it is funny to me) I believe Chao lei is becoming weary of being Mommy's little helper and is considering himself as Mommy's little gopher. He asks when his father returns and is not happy with "I do not know."

I thought for a time last night that June had decided to come now. I was only moments from calling Dorothy or an ambulance. A week early is not so bad but I wish Jared as much time as possible to return so he is present for one of his children's birth. He was in Japan for a few days only not here. That is a cruel thing to discover. "They are in Sasebo" is not what this mother wishes to hear.

When Jared does get home, he has much to do. The baby's bed remains in the box it arrived in. His plans for the baby's room have not even begun. I believe it is to make up for those things not being done that he is still buying June clothes. I fear if he does not stop she will have clothes she will never wear. Her closet now contains more clothing than mine, though to be honest, that is not an accomplishment. She has more shoes than Chao lei and me combined. I have asked him to slow his purchasing but "She would be just too cute" in them.

My wish for the day is for Jared to get home. Now. It will be then that I can present June with no feelings of guilt that he missed another one. Then again... Jared's treatment of me the last time he missed was phenomenal. No... we will wait... hopefully.

Getting Close

 It is getting more difficult to convince June to remain where she is for a short while longer. Contractions are becoming more frequent but Jared is not home yet. I find myself trying to distract myself as if it will stop the contractions or delay the birth. Silly, I know.

Chao lei has decided he is not fond of my contractions. He tells my tummy to "stop hurting my mom" as if it would pay any attention to him. lol I am subjected to endless questions of what he should expect, what is happening now and will I still love him when June is born. The last question shocked me. What have I done to cause him to believe my love for him would change because June is born? I do reassure him there will be no change in how I love him. I have warned him that babies require much more attention than a big boy such as he but it will not mean I love him any less. It will be necessary to make time for him. We will continue with many of our customary activities.

Lately, I find myself living vicariously through other people's adventures since I can not go for myself. Adventurous bloggers are my lifeline. Chao lei does not care since they are only pictures but I do. It causes me to earnestly plan our own adventures once June is born and, hopefully, my back recovers without surgery. There are many places in Japan I have yet to hike. I have not climbed Mt. Fuji. How can you say you have lived in Japan without having done that? I need only acquire the baby carrier and have a husband about to hike with.

It seems Japan is over CoVid. The state of emergency has been lifted and all limits of businesses are no more. That does not mean the Navy has done so. We remain limited on what we are permitted to do. Japan says we may return to normal, for now, while the Navy says we may not. It is tempting to return to normal off base while following the restrictions on base but the Navy's reach extends beyond the gates so I do not. I do tend to believe that my Asian (though not Japanese) appearance would help me to get away with it though. White people in general seem unable to clearly see the distinction between different Asian people; "You all look the same." Still, integrity demands I do not attempt such a thing.

I believe the race between Jared and June will go to June. Once again, Jared will be allowed to disembark the ship first to meet his daughter. She will be denied meeting him earlier. Such is life in the Navy.

At Home

They sent me home yesterday and put me on bedrest. Yay. Now I am home with nothing to do. I have not seen Chao lei since yesterday but it IS early. Dorothy will bring him to see me later. Miyuki will arrive soon and she will help me as I need through the day but she returns home at 5pm. From then I am alone. It is for these types of events shore duty would be welcome.

Miyuki and I have discussed what will be needed beyond her other duties. She will have my dinner prepared and will place what I will need for the night, such as drinks and medicine, on the table. Her pay will increase but that is expected since her duties have increased.

How long this arrangement will be necessary I do not know. As is usual, we families are not told of returns times and dates. We are only told exact times when the ship enters Sagami Bay. At least this time I am not greeted with absolute frowns when the topic of Jared's return BEFORE the delivery is discussed with the ombudsman. At the same moment I am not greeted with joyous positive smile. I suppose the "window" we are given will have to do and I will be hopeful my "arrivals" will occur close together.

Contractions have lessened since being in the hospital. In fact, they have become infrequent. I am hoping they remain so. It was a likelihood that if my back had not began to hurt and I remained at home with the same activity, early labor would have occurred so there is a positive aspect of my back pain. I cannot imagine going through labor while my back hurts as much as it does. In fact, I do not want to imagine it. lol

There is approximately one month before my due date. I will spend that time being as relaxed as possible. I will make no such effort if he returns and I have not given birth yet.

Boring

Time in the hospital is boring. I hope they send me home soon.

 

The doctors say they will avoid surgery as best they may. I am 35 weeks so it is possible to induce now but I would rather June remains where she is until she is ready. I prefer the "little cookie" to cook completely before she is removed from the oven. I need only be cautious so I do not inflame my back again. Contractions continue but it is not labor yet.

 

Dorothy has inherited Chao lei until I am released. She has been a great help to me. I am fortunate to have her as my friend. Chao lei likes her too. She was the person to inform Jared of my predicament but also told him I will survive and not to fret. It is not as the Navy will bring the ship home because I am uncomfortable.

 

I have too much free time. One can only watch so much tv. My view from the window is beautiful but does not change. I have stared at my feet for hours. Despite any attempt to decorate them, they are ugly. Maybe fresh polish would improve them. No, the toes would remain crooked. I do NOT have a model's feet. I am not normally so critical. I have many scars I have had to learn to ignore. When one is left with nothing to do, though, it is easy to become critical of oneself. I have avoided having a mirror handy. I can only imagine of my appearance since I was removed from my bed after most of a night's sleep. The only hygiene has been to brush my teeth, which is not so easy to spit out toothpaste while on your back, and wipe my face with a rag.

 

Now we have a race. June Bao's birth before or after Jared returns. The ladies of the FRG have a pool. I wonder if I should pick a day?

Well this is it

So... I'm in the hospital. I could not get up this morning without great pain. I called Dorothy to help me and in turn called an ambulance. The doctor has seen me. I have been poked and prodded. The pregnancy complicated the xrays.

It seems an accident is rearing its head again. Surgery may be necessary to again repair damaged discs. Also, it complicates the pregnancy because the baby is on the problem discs. The doctor and my ob will discuss with me if I need to be induced.

Chao lei will be cared for so I have no worries of that. I do worry of Jared's thoughts when he is told. They are underway and he had his duty to see to. I know they will not return early for my sake. It is not as if I will die. I will be sent home in a day or so and follow up will be scheduled.

A boring life would be preferred to this episode. Lol

Pardon my post

Here I sit in my recliner with a back that refuses to cooperate. Sitting up with a laptop is not possible today. I feel as if there is a heating pad on my back though there is not.

I did not suffer back pain with Chao lei. It seems June insists that she make up for that. I should not be surprised though. She did not keep my favorite foss from me. Nausea has been rare. With Chao lei it was constant. It has been an easier pregnancy.

My ob is not happy for the back pain when combined with occasional contractions. He threatens bed rest. Unless Jared returns soon, that will not be an option.
Doctors seem to be very proficient at telling you what to do but not so much in how to do it. 

Miyuki does what she can but Chao lei is bored. I am forced to allow far more XBox time than I care to. AFN tries but has little programming for young children. There are only so many programs to stream.

We will get through this I know. It is only a question of how crazy I will be.  Lol

Another Day in the Navy

My husband is not home but he is also not officially gone... yet. I can go to Chili's and enjoy lunch and see the ship a mere 1500 meters distance. It is frustrating to say the least.

The news of the Bonhomme Richard has set many nerves on edge. At the beginning, all that was known was a US Navy ship was on fire and there were injuries. What ship and its location was unknown. The "grapevine" being what it is, we heard it was this ship or that one, at this place or that. So we watched the ships at the docks for smoke. I confess even I looked to our ship for smoke. Receiving the "real story" made little difference to some. After all, nerves at times take time to calm. Now most of us have watched and continue to watch every piece of information about the fire. Spouses have drawn together to draw comfort from each other.

Some callous comments were made almost immediately. The most common on was of someone losing their job and that was commonly heard from young sailors. I do not understand their expressing that even before complete news had arrived. We have no idea what has happened. The fire still burns so it will be some time before even Navy officials know. It may well be negligence on someone's part will be discovered and that someone will suffer sanctions of some kind but now is not the time to discuss it.

The last few days, I have had contractions. After seeing my OB, he has recommended I do as little as possible. What does that look like with a bored 7 year old? Miyuki will be here during the day but it is not her job to care for Chao lei. I will have Dorothy at times but she has tasks of her own. It seems as this birth will be more difficult than the last one if Jared is gone. I am praying earnestly that he is here. If the contractions do not cease, bedrest is the next instruction. I have no idea how I would accomplish that. I will accomplish it though, with or without Jared being here. 

Moving Along

Restrictions continue to lifted. We are able to travel a bit more. Just in time (<---see sarcasm). A trip to Yokohama would have been enjoyable but traveling there alone this close to my due day is unwise.

Speaking of the baby... She kicks. Hard. At times I believe she is practicing kicking balls around. She has taken my breath more than once. I have experienced cramps that have focused my attention one or twice but they have passed uneventfully so I continue about my day. I do tell her "Not now. Wait for daddy."

Her closet is already full with clothes. Far more dresses than I would care for but I will not complain. Especially since it is Jared who has bought most of them. They are very pretty and dainty but she will require clothing that is sturdier.  Given her kicks, I am convinced she will be athletic.

University is done for the summer. For me at the least. Having the summer away from school should give me enough time to recuperate and be ready for fall term. I still do not know what that term will look like. Some are hinting it will return to on-campus classes once again but others hint of continued on-line classes. I hope they set it soon. It takes time to set up classes and I do not wish to waste time on one method of teaching should they choose the other. Some will say plan for both. It is a logical suggestion, after all. Each method is very different from the other and it is possible to do both. Such short notice of what to do is the issue and the indications are they will settle exclusively on one or the other. There are aspects that must be met before the term begins but must be supported before planning may begin. I only wish they would decide very soon.

If it is going to rain, make it memorable. We are to have strong to severe thunderstorms over the weekend. I hope this is the case. I thoroughly enjoy watching thunderstorms. I can spend hours watching the lightening. Mind you, do not confuse my enjoyment of thunderstorms with enjoyment of typhoons. Thunderstorms are pretty. Typhoons are destructive. We are to have a couple of days of storms.

The downside of the storms is no fireworks tomorrow. That is disappointing. Several activities have been cancelled or postponed. Hopefully, the storms will not affect the reopening of The Italian Gardens restaurant. It is a favorite of mine. It has been so long since I have eaten pasta.

It is becoming brighter here as restrictions are lifted. It is becoming more "normal."

Bleh

Rain. As if that is not bad enough, humidity. I have only awakened and my house feels as a sauna. I usually love the sound of rain. It is only this storm comes from of the continent so the rain is warm. This will be the type of day that melts makeup. *sigh*

Fortunately, most of my activities will be indoors today. First activity is an FRG meeting. We will be beginning planning for this year's deployment. Seems funny to be making these plans for when the ship is gone while the ship is gone though it returns today. This meeting will focus on medical issues in the families and identifying what will be expected.

The ship returning today is good news. The bad news is it will leave again for some weeks. I hope it is very soon so they can return sooner. I am 31 weeks and any woman knows what that means. This time, I do not have the luxury of Mother coming to assist me. There is my friend Dorothy and I do have Miyuki so I will not be alone all the time. I will only have evenings but Chao lei has been a great help. 

I do dread Jared being gone, AGAIN, when I go into labor. When we speak of the ship's departure his face tells me their departure will be uncomfortably close to the date. I pray for his sake it is after even if only by a day. If he is gone, we will do as the last time and make do.

We have chosen her name and I must say I feel a small amount of guilt for a minor deception. In my defense, Jared did say it was my choice for our daughter. We have decided to name her as we did Chao lei having an English name and a Chinese name. Her name will be June Bao. In English her name means: June=Young and Bao=Jewel. The deception is that I first though of a fully Chinese name "Jun Bao." I had to search to find an English equivalent sounding name and found June. Jared is happy with the name so all is well though he did give me a "look" when I told him.

Now let us hope he is here for her birth. He should be allowed to be at one.

Free?

We begin to have less restrictions. Downtown is relaxing faster but if the Navy did it quickly, it would not be the Navy. We are finally allowed to shop but we are not allowed to dine in off base. The best news is we are permitted to go to the off base beaches. In truth, we are permitted to travel much of the Miura Peninsula. 

As yet, there is no word of the University's plans for Fall term. I miss my students. We can continue online courses but I believe the personal connections are as important as the material being taught. I can not see a student is struggling outside of their finished work so I am unable to anticipate a problem. I depend on them to tell me. It is especially a difficult thing for the men to admit their difficulties. When it is the point that I discover there is difficulty it is almost too late. 

I hope we return to class even if we must have smaller class sizes. I believe we could merge online and in class styles where performance will determine which style you will participate in. I have students who perform exceptionally well only hearing the lectures and reading textbooks and I have others that need some guidance. I wish for them all to do well. We will soon discover the University's plans.

Who would believe people would be excited because the shuttle bus is once again available? I see no reason for it. This base is not large. Anyplace is within walking distance. I suppose most fitness benefits of walking the base will disappear. Perhaps not as the fitness centers and pools are opening.

We are not at normal but we are progressing. I think they are calling it HPCON-B. That sounds of a disease on its own. lol 

Of course, Jared is gone again and that is normal.

Current Events

I must say the events happening at home are sad and unfortunate. Racism is a bad thing that should not be. It is unfortunate that I have faced discrimination my entire life.

Growing up in China, I faced discrimination because I was a girl. Western women think they can understand what I speak of but really they have not faced what I faced every day. It is difficult to express the differences but they are there. Imagine being given less, protected less, physically and mentally treated as less in society simply for being born female. More than once I was told I should die and not waste space. Not by my parents but by others in my community.  I put some blame on the Chinese government and their "one child" policy. The rest belongs on the shoulders of those whose minds were so cruel and closed.

In Chinese culture, a son is most important to continue the family name. A family with no son is ended. Daughters do not continue a family therefore a daughter is not what is desired. Until recently, it was common to discover baby girls who had been left to die so the parents could attempt a boy. China has recently relaxed this policy but after how many baby girls were left to die? I think it ironic this policy was relaxed because Chinese men are finding it difficult to find Chinese brides. It seems we are in short supply.

I do not make light of the western woman's plight at all. I have been able to experience that as well. Making matters worse, I am a short Chinese woman. Often in western countries, I have been spoken to as if I was a small child that could not fathom the complexities of life, much less my job. I have been treated differently because of my skin, the shape of my eyes or even the accent with which I speak. I have struggled many years to assimilate into my new world only to be told to go back where I came from.

Why people do this I do not know. My blood is as red as anyone's. If we were to compare the palms of our hands we would discover they have the same color. I was unaware of this until an African man showed me. Why does a pigment in the skin cause people to behave so? Why is different a bad thing for them?

As for these continuing protests... I believe it is a right to protest peacefully and is needed now and then. Violence is never an acceptable way to make yourself heard. Two people have been shot by rioters? This is not acceptable. It can even be said they have tainted the message with their violence. "You had my support until the rioting." is a common meme now. Because of the few violent ones, the message is being lost. Because of the continuing protests, it is being lost. People I have heard are becoming annoyed with the frequency of them. "You made your point, now be quiet" will not make changes either. Where is the balance then? I am not wise enough to know the answer.

For me, the only thing I may do is live the life that I would wish to see others live. I will not judge a person on some arbitrary thing as the pigment of their skin, their gender or even their spouse's rank (a common source of irritation to me). What is done in their private lives is just that, private. I strive to give respect until disrespect is earned. 

Many events have taught me to not base my treatment of others on a single interaction. Who has not had a bad day? I remember one who treated me very poorly on our first meeting yet became a close friend to me. It was a bad day for us both that resulted in a blessing for us both. I try to live everyday and expect that every person I meet could be a friend. Even when they seem in a bad mood. I am not perfect in this but I do try.

Arg...

So much fun at one time. Jared is gone, we remain under restrictions and typhoon season has begun.

I seems Jared has departed on a long cruise. Again, Chao lei and I are alone. It is not the best of timing. I am 27 weeks. I know. I have several weeks remaining but given where the ship is, it will be several weeks before their return. I do not wish to this alone again. Also, unless travel restrictions are lifted before then, I will not have Mother here to help care for Chao lei. I am capable of doing it but help is always welcome.

We remain under restrictions on base. They are easing though. Hopefully soon we will be able to return to normal. I will assume though some behaviors have been permanently changed. We should be more conscious of  general sanitary practices. I do agree with Mother that we can be too sterile though. If we strip away all germs, we will have a defense against none.

Now, to complete the fun, we are under TCCOR 5 (tropical cyclone condition of readiness) warning now. It is the lowest alert but can change quickly. It means a typhoon is POSSIBLE in 96 hours. It could also return to ALL CLEAR quickly. Much can change in that long period of time. I will only fret when it is TCCOR 2 when we have 24 hours. That means the storm is at the least close enough to affect us in some way, even if only with heavy rain. If one has their storm kit prepared, this is not an emergency but only an inconvenience.

Ok. Whining is done for today. Now I will go and enjoy the day as best I can.

The end?

Dare I say it? It seems the end is in sight. As restrictions begin to be lifted, people are relaxing more. Still, abundant precaution is being exercised on the base. The surrounding community seems to not change.

Truth be known, the Japanese were wearing masks before the virus appeared. A person suffering a cold or the air is thick with pollution was reason enough. The only difference of now and then is more people have been wearing them. I see shop owners wearing them but lately, more customers are not.

On base the restrictions ease. Chao lei is pleased for some of it. I am able to take him to the play areas but only if there are less than 5 children. That means we must be early or our timing is fortuitous. Chao lei has no issue with being there early. He has, almost daily, come to be sure I am awake and ready for a 6 am visit to the park.

Adults may now run the base perimeter but spacing must be maintained. We may also use the pool if one makes reservations. I may begin running if only to be able to be outside for a time. I only wish it were like home soon where restaurants are beginning to host sit-down dinners. I could die for some good Mexican food. Taco Bell does not count.

Continued caution is warranted though. The ship next to ours has 7 CoVid-19 cases and are isolated from the base. They are approaching lifting the end of the ROM (restriction of movement). Jared is almost two months being unable to board his ship. Some people who were supposed to DEROS are being held here until June 30 but that could change. It is the military.

The university remains closed but on-line class work continues. I must say this is difficult to do and my concern is for my students. If they have questions they must email them to me. I have been having live classes on Go-To-Meeting and that seems to work well but I have had to work with the school to get an academic license. Otherwise, some find it difficult to pay for it. The most interesting part of this year is graduation. The staff still are working with how to award doctorates in some other way than simply mailing them. It is a great accomplishment and deserves more than only a postage stamp.

At the least, there seems to be a light at the end of the tunnel as SOME restrictions begin to be lifted. I look forward to return to normal.

Still moving forward

It has been difficult at times trying to live life as normal as possible during this pandemic. Some things are to be expected; others are too much. The difference in behavior between the military and the local government is a sharp contrast in the philosophy of virus control.

On base, we are told to go outside as little as possible and when we do, face masks and social distancing are a must. The military even goes so far as to tell me, a civilian, what I may or may not do while off base and offer punishments for not doing as I am told.

The Japanese, on the other hand, require reasonable precautions to be taken but restaurants, bars, salons and many such places remain open. It is far from normal life but it is not so restrictive as on base is. Also, the government did not say "close or else" but rather they compensated those that did closed. Do not be discovered in one of these businesses that remained open.

I have patronized some of these places but only ones I am able to pick up an order. Just because there is a virus about it does not follow that my husband must be forced to eat only my cooking. Admittedly, he does have a ship's mess he can eat at. I however, do not. It has been tempting but I have been a good girl.

On and off base, people are becoming resentful of the restrictions; more so on base than off since the restrictions are more severe. Still, the locals are becoming very vocal about it. They are showing their frustration over the prolonged requests for people to stay home and businesses to close. Honestly, I do not see their resistance since they are requests rather than orders as we on base must endure. The difference of us is, Japanese people may express their frustrations openly. We may not without consequences.

Bur we move on and do what we must until things return to what was.

I Got Them Excited

If you are curious how anxious people are because of CoVid-19, all one need do is get the flu.

I did just that. Last Sunday I was feeling a little ill but it quickly got worse from there. I found myself shivering and feeling very nauseous. By Monday morning I felt as if I was dying. It was typical flu. I have no idea where I got it. One would believe it unlikely that flu could be caught since we are sheltering in place for CoVid-19 and these measures are supposed to stop it.

The hospital's response was what I would label as overdone. Masks and gloves were expected. HazMat suits were too much. The questions were numerous and my answers were, at least I thought, obvious. I was sweating, shivering, nauseous, aching, coughing; all those things you feel during flu. It was so overdone as to cause me to think I was a suspect in a crime... same questions over and over. Some of the staff seemed to be openly hostile toward me. Here I will say, a swab up your nose is not pleasant. Especially when it feels as if they are attempting to gather brain matter through your nose. after much poking and prodding, I was finally ordered to home with no stopping anywhere. Really? I have the flu. I had no desire to go to the hospital in the beginning. Why would I desire to be anywhere other than my house?

Now I am becoming better and do not feel as ill. What I have learned from this is if I begin to feel ill again... remain silent, dry the sweat on my face frequently, do not cough where I may be heard and insist I am not ill.

So how was your week?

Something new

Being isolated brings challenges of what to do with oneself. I have read, and in some cases re-read every book in my house. Including technical manuals that seem to find their way here. There is limited outside activity that does not involve someone querying your social distancing skill and there is no mercy on someone who sneezes during allergy season. So I have set out to discover something that occupies my time until everything returns to normal.

I believe I have discovered that thing. So far though, it is proving to be expensive. Understandably, there is always the initial cost of acquiring basics. Just acquiring the first two pieces cost $578.00. Added to that cost was a few supplies to start but I see more purchasing in my future.

Jared was quite stunned to see the purchase amount. In my defense, I generally spend very little and my savings are more than enough to pay this initial cost. Also, I do not have a ship to go to every day to escape the isolation as he does.

My new machines are a Cricut Explore Air 2 (It is the one in the middle) and a Cricut Easy Press 2. I am sure I will rearrange my room to fit them better but this is the space I have at the moment. Perhaps soon I will have many projects to show but for now I play with it to learn what I can do with it. 

I believe the most difficult (and expensive) part will be acquiring the basic needs such as papers of differing kinds, vinyl and transfers. I look forward to and will probably start with transfers. Family shirts. Ship shirts! I have seen socks with printing on them. 

So many projects to choose from. Pictures of projects are so overwhelming to settle on the first to be done but there will be a first!

Another day in the life

Freckles. I have freckles. It seems 19 weeks of pregnancy causes freckles. Now I have freckles to accompany my mustache. To be honest, I almost wish it was as last time and Jared was not here for this part of pregnancy. Almost ;-) He did not see these changes so much and did not have opportunity to identify them. I know he is not being cruel when he identifies changes but it does not change my desire that he be not so observant of them.

This pregnancy also does not contribute to good moods since we are sheltering in place. I watch the news of the states and see people moving about despite the "Stay home, stay healthy" orders. I believe these people would die here in Japan. The commander says stay home and that is what you do. If one does go outside, social distancing (I am coming to dislike those words) is rigidly enforced.

I understand it. It is an inconvenient necessity if we are to move beyond the virus. I believe most people understand it. I also understand this is a fluid situation and will change now and then. Now we, civilian and military, are required to wear masks when outside and unable to maintain our six feet of spacing. I do not always wear my mask but I do leave it about my neck. Some people seem to think it is unnecessary and do not wear theirs. When these people approach I can quickly pull my mask up. I do not do this because of unreasonable fear of the virus but rather I wish to avoid being scolded and possibly penalized by an official because the other person was neglectful.

Discovering activities for Chao lei is a challenge. There is only so much school work to be done. His normal activities are seriously curtailed. He is bored with his hobbies. Normally he reads but we are constantly out of books to read. I am loath to allow too much tv. It is a bad habit I do not wish to encourage but I am running out of things to occupy him.

I envy Jared since he is able to leave home every day. A disadvantage of living off base here is I must have a demonstrable reason to enter the gates onto the base. I must constantly remind myself I am not the only one that must live this way. My teeth remain gritted though.

Ugh!

How bored must we be for this virus to go away? Everything is closed or cancelled.

There is a limit to how much exposure to video gaming I am willing to allow Chao lei. I am able to pick up school work for him but that occupies only so much time. TV is not much of an option for him. Keeping him occupied is getting more difficult as the days pass.

I am forced to do remote teaching though some classes are cancelled outright. I am unable to access my office after a one-time pass to retrieve what I would need for remote classes. Have you ever been forced to do that? It is inevitable that one would forget something. I forgot a few things. Now I am reconstructing those things I forgot. It is so fun re-doing things already done.

Jared is at least underway for now. It is almost as if they intend to keep the sailors healthy by keeping them isolated at sea. It does make one think...

I Have Returned!

First, we have successfully completed 14 weeks of this pregnancy! Yay!

After Jared returned, we spent much time being active despite some poor weather. My favorite outing

was our return visit to Ashikaga Flower Park. Before the new blossoms begin to emerge, they put lights to replace them.

It is a very peaceful walk even with an energetic young boy accompanying you. By the end of the walk, the boy is not so energetic.

This park is most famous for its wisteria but it was still too early for us to see it. I believe we will return in several weeks once spring is truly here and the gardens are in full bloom.

It may sound odd but February is the best time for strawberries here. Japanese strawberries are noted for being very sweet and there are several places to visit that celebrate them. There is a strawberry festival in Yokohama where you can discover strawberry drinks, strawberry deserts, strawberry candies... essentially anything strawberry. Much of what you find is expected. There are some surprises though.It may sound odd but February is the best time for strawberries here. Japanese strawberries are noted for being very sweet and there are several places to visit that celebrate them. There is a strawberry festival in Yokohama where you can discover strawberry drinks, strawberry deserts, strawberry candies... essentially anything strawberry. Much of what you find is expected. There are some surprises though.

We did many hikes. Japan seems very crowded on one's arrival but with some exploring one

discovers there is much more to Japan than cities. There are many very large parks to visit and hike through.

The cities are crowded and you often only know you have entered a different one because there is a sign that has informed you so. It is no wonder that the Japanese are so fond of their parks. They are very well maintained. For hiking, they have groomed trail to natural trails, from easy to most difficult. Jared and I have decided that before we leave Japan again, we will hike Mount Fiji all the way to the top. Maybe I can get mother to visit then to care for the children.

Yet another park we visited was Hanamiyama Park. Being too early for cherry blossoms, a visit here was in order. Plum blossoms are the first to bloom and the festivals for them are celebrated with as much enthusiasm. It is regretful that many foreigners only think of the cherry blossom festivals. So much beauty is missed when one neglects the plum blossoms.

Cherry blossoms are a beautiful pink for certain. Plum blossoms can be white, pink, and many shades in between. Seeing the hillsides of the park covered in many shades of blossoms is, in my opinion anyway, more beautiful. Each have their own opinions of course.

Now that our marathon cruise is complete and liberty time is over, we return to our "at home" routine. That means I leave the "man stuff" to Jared and I do, well, what I need to get done. Especially if I need it done now.

Curiously, Jared feels the need to do boy stuff  with Chao lei before the sister arrives. One might believe an infant girl can occupy all their time with girl stuff.

Eleven Weeks

The ship has returned. They were away for 11 weeks. The fanfare of the ship's return is as I remember it. For those who have read my posts before, you would see I often attend other ships homecoming just for the happy atmosphere. It does not compare to our own ship coming home though. My sailor has returned.

We have not slowed down very much since his return and we have plans to for the remainder of the week. Jared took leave so we can spend time since, as he says it, since this time out was an unexpected time to be made amends for. This is only a quick note to remind you I still live.

Enjoy you week end as much as I will!

Week 10 has passed. A poster making party is an encouraging sign but I will accept it as something they do to occupy the families until the ship's return is a confirmed reality.

Finally, I get a picture but I cannot see that it is Jared. I must take his word for it.

It was only training but when you first see it before he explains, it does cause some serious concerns. Repair training is something all hands must be proficient with so all must practice. He says it is difficult work dragging a fire hose around inside the ship. If he is required to do it again, he would prefer doing so on deck. 

Another week of pregnancy has passed. We are week 16 and a bump is beginning to be noticed. Maternity clothes are becoming required if I desire comfort... at all. I have become an oil well of sorts. I find myself carrying wipes again to remove the body oil I am profusely producing. Sometimes I believe OPEC will ask me to join them. It seems I will be buying Shine Stopper again. It is somewhat expensive but it prevents me from looking as if I have fallen in a vat of oil.

Chao lei is completely back to his routine. One would think we did not travel anywhere recently. He is excited for basketball this year. What is strange is he is more excited for the Junior Run Club that follows. This I do not understand where his desire to run originates. I am not a runner. If you see me running, try to keep up because something big and scary is chasing me. Jared runs of necessity but complains of it ocaisionally. We have not encouraged running but neither have we discouraged it. We will support him though.

Getting Caught Up

I am thankful for my time away even though it was for a reason I did not prefer. Getting caught up is taking longer than I believed it would.

Chao lei's school work, while not much. took some extra effort. It seems that if it is not done in school, there is no reason to do it at home. Each assignment seemed to be a negotiation on par with North Korean nuclear talks. This was unusual for him. Normally, he enjoys his school work. I am believing his current reluctance is a result of his time away from school. He only required getting caught up as his mother does.

I was fortunate to acquire an OB appointment so quickly on my return. There is nothing wrong, but the gender reveal was satisfying. We will have a girl this time.

Jared is beyond excited. I have already received packages with little girl clothes that he has ordered. Some have been less than... attractive. I give him credit for trying though.Of course, the packages cause me to be curious of when he makes orders since there is only sporadic contact with his son and I through Skype. I will need to question him of this when he arrives home.

Speaking of arriving home, the ship is on week nine with no indications of their return time. They have posted some pictures of their activities. One would believe that in the number of photos they posted, at least one would have had Jared in it. Not so. At least we get to see they are doing well.

School is early in the new term so getting caught up there is easier than if it were the end of term. It is surprising how much students can forget in only a few short weeks. I would not have believed that a review would have been required so quickly.

I am returning to my routine though. I wish I could be as Chao lei and return so quickly to what normal.

I Spoke to Jared...

… and this is what he now knows of the baby's gender...

He seems pleased to know he will have a daughter. I too am pleased.

Eight Weeks... Almost

So. Eight weeks gone and ten more to go to tie the record. I am hoping they do not break it. I am unsure that I would care for being at sea for this long in winter but I am certain I do not care for Jared being gone this long (or longer) at any time of year. The positive of this is it results in a better chance the ship will be home, or at the least home more often, during this pregnancy. Still, I am jealous of the other crews that sit quietly at the docks at the moment.

I am 15 weeks into pregnancy now. The OB clinic had an opening yesterday so I was able to be seen quicker than I thought I could be. Everything is progressing well. It is fortunate for me that this one has not banned any part of my usual diet. Chao lei would not allow dumplings or coffee. I have not gained much weight but it is beginning to become obvious to me larger pants are closer to becoming reality. I suppose a visit to the maternity section at the NEx is in order.

Gender. I know it now but Jared does not. Though parents eagerly ask of it, I remain silent until he knows of it. It is only fair. He is the father. I have decided we will do a reveal after Chao lei and I have told him so I will not post here as some family have been known to visit this blog on occasion. How unfair for him to discover the gender as everyone else, or even after others, does. For now, I must await Jared's limited face time and only the Navy knows when that will be.

I have returned to my classes. The students appear more relaxed at the beginning of a new term than at to end of the last. lol  Appearing to learn is much easier than demonstrating you have learned. Both are important. My most difficult class is English Language. It is a difficult language to master but one may quickly learn enough to communicate. It is my Japanese students who are most difficult. They are very intelligent but worry too much of speaking it incorrectly. I understand their thoughts. I too have had to learn English and its many rules; rules that often contradict each other. Still, one must speak it to learn it and understand their usage will not be perfect but will improve with use. I have more patience with these students because I have more empathy for them. It is difficult enough that the class is generally conducted in English with only some Japanese when something new arises.

Chao lei has resumed his routine and I continue to live the Navy wife life.

New year, Different Life

I closed out my old year by leaving Japan to say good bye to a loved one. I begin the new year by preparing to return to Japan to resume living. Christmas alone was bad enough. Christmas alone and having Father Bing die was almost too much. It was good for me to be here for a time because even now, the ship is gone and Jared is not home.

Chao lei has traveled surprisingly well. He is becoming fond of flying. He has also made himself a part of the Bing family. He does not meet strangers when dealing with other children. He only sees new playmates. For adults, he only looks to me to see how I interact with them to determine if he will. I am happy this is so though it will not diminish my vigilance watching after him.

As of this moment, I would be surprised if Jared is home when I arrive. They have been underway for 53 days and counting. I am hoping this ends soon but have no indication that it will. It is deja vous. Jared was gone much of the last pregnancy too. It is thirteen weeks and missed all of them. What is it that when I am pregnant the Navy decides Jared is needed elsewhere?

Chao lei and I will board a plane tomorrow and endure the long flight back to Japan. It is funny to think I will arrive while missing a day. lol  I will need to schedule an appointment at the OB immediately since I am overdue because of being in Oregon. I must retrieve Yuki the cat. Fortunately, my friend Dorothy has seen to our rent and utilities during my absence so there is that much less for me to see to.

Back to Japan. Back to the Navy.