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Wednesday, July 24, 2024

What the Heck?

It has been some time since I have posted anything like this so it is time. Children have a unique outlook on life and are unafraid of speaking their mind. Often time, they unintentionally entertain us., like these gems from  Jun.

I felt I won as a mother when Jun asked, "Who needs a warm bed when you have a warm mommy?"

I bought a new pair of shoes and ask her of her opinion. 

  • Me: “How do these sandals look?”
  • Jun: “They look like shoes…but they mostly look like feet.”

I am thinking that perhaps exposing Jun to some of my work may be premature. At a restaurant, Jun was quietly observing the table next to us. As soon as they left…

  • Jun: “That was weird. Like if an AI took a class in human speech and quit halfway through!”

We went shopping the other day and Jun reminded me of what a girly girl she is.

  • Me: “I am glad we got those new pants for you today. They look nice.”
  • Jun: “Well, pants are not really for me.”
  • Me: “What do you mean?”
  • Jun: “I do not wear pants for ME. I wear them for other people.”

 Chao lei is not off the hook here. He has his moments too only not as many as Jun. We went to a movie the other evening. It seems he is becoming a film critic.

  • Chao lei: "I am not saying it's the worst movie in the world. I'm only 11. I have not seen that many movies yet. It is just that I have never seen a movie as bad as than that one."
My children are often entertaining to me. Sometimes they display wisdom beyond their years. Sometimes they speak very funny things while being completely serious. It is one of the perks of motherhood to be there when they do this. After all, what could be better than stifling a snicker when discovering your child hiding in the bathroom with a brownie in each hand and one in their mouth looking at you with such an innocent face despite knowing they were busted?


Wednesday, July 17, 2024

Finding Normal

Our neighborhood is turning out to be a very close one. I am beginning to believe Jared’s absences will not be so disruptive. I also believe it will be difficult to claim loneliness. Already, we have been part of 4 “park parties” where families from the neighborhood gather in the park to grill, play music, and generally party together. These are family focused events and we have been unreservedly included in each of them. The only one we have missed so far was due to a conflict with the change of command ceremony.

I am grateful that the children here are as accepting as their parents. Chao lei and Jun have been treated as if they have lived here for many years. It took a little time for my children to relax and meet people, but they finally did and now play regularly with the other children. And their Spanish is improving by leaps and bounds. I fear I will be the one who is not well understood. I am corrected often by them for poor usage. In fact, they speak little else right now so I must study harder to keep up with them.

The first cruise is underway. Estimated return? Who knows. A few days? A few weeks? A few months? Well, it IS the Navy.

This time was rather abrupt though. Usually, we have a few days to prepare for it. This time was only 2 days. Change of Command and boom, gone. It was such a joy to receive that announcement at the ceremony, and from Jared no less. He got a look from me since it is obvious that he knew beforehand. Did you know that controlling facial reactions is sometimes very difficult? It ends up as, “Please ignore what my face said while you were speaking.” He also immediately apologized for not informing me. At least those around me now know I have no readily available insider information about the ship. Barely a single city outing before he is gone again. We had a good month with him though, so it is not all bad.

This tour looks to be easier to settle in to than I thought it would be. I am ecstatic that the children are doing so well. My pregnancy is well known among the neighbors. One of the women is a midwife and has volunteered to step in should any difficulties arise unexpectedly.

It is difficult to believe next week is the beginning of the third trimester. This pregnancy is passing so quickly. I think all of the activity of moving had something to do with that. Su has the hiccups, bad. Worse, it startles me every time she has them. I thought the heartburn was going away but it returned with a vengeance this morning. I cannot complain much though. Su has been the easiest pregnancy by far with no surprises.

I believe we are finding our new normal fairly quickly. This tour is not proving to be the struggle I thought it would be… so far. But it is promising.

Friday, July 05, 2024

They Are My Children Again

They have finally braved the new world and played in the park across the street. I think boredom finally overtook their fear and drove them outside of the courtyard.

They began their day in the back courtyard, nice and safe, but the sounds of others playing got the better of them so they opened the gate, As I watched them, they began to look out to see what the other children were doing but not going out. Their pauses at the gate became longer and longer.

Finally, a football rolled through the gate and got Chao lei’s attention. A young boy, I later discovered his name is Inigo, came to the gate to retrieve the ball. He asked if Chao lei and Jun wanted to play. Chao lei did not hesitate to go. Jun was a little more reluctant. She did accompany her brother out to play but at first holding on to his shirt tail.

The ice finally broken, the children that I am more familiar with emerged and they forgot their fears. Jun even broke away from her brother to meet some girls on her own

Here I might mention that the local children are accustomed to meeting English speakers, so they assume everyone they meet speaks only English. They seemed quite delighted that Chao lei and Jun spoke some Spanish. I believe the children’s language skills will increase quickly as they learn from their playmates. Already they use words I do not know. I suppose I will improve my skills through secondhand teaching.

I am more relaxed on discovering that mothers here do not allow their children to wander at will. They are limited to the park which is surrounded by our houses, and all have a clear view of it. In addition, there is generally at least one mother in the park always but usually more. And they pay close attention to who is there. My children attracted the attention of several mothers whose mission became to discover where they were from and whose children they were. I have not seen better reasons to meet your neighbors.

In our greetings, I discovered we are the only non-Spanish family in the neighborhood. These ladies are happy for that since we are here for some time, and it means no tourists will reside in the neighborhood. It seems the British on holiday (the most common visitor) can be annoying. It seems we also won some neighbor points because we began learning Spanish before we arrived.

Again, I have been approached by a recruiter, this time a Marine. I understand it is their job but how do they find me? For the second time I had to tell them I was not interested. I do not feel the call to serve. I have a husband to support that is serving, I have children to care for, and a household to manage. I left the university because of the lack of time for raising my children. Becoming a serving Marine or even Navy officer would return me to that predicament. Thank you but no thank you.

Jared and I will be taking the children to Puerto de Santa Maria tomorrow and explore our first city together. It will likely be the last for a time. The change of Command ceremony is Wednesday. After that, who knows when he will leave? We, meaning me and the children, will return to exploring without him. Again, I will learn the base before he does.

Week 26 and all is well. My ultrasound confirms  that Su is indeed a girl and is growing normally. I only wish the resurging heartburn would at least lessen a bit. The lack of sleep is manageable. I take full advantage of siesta time.Now if only could get Jared to develop taste in music. Su is following her brother's lead in learning how to kick me when he plays his particular brand of... music.

It is starting out to be an enjoyable assignment and it seems we will settle in quite nicely with the neighbors. Even though it is not CONUS, I am happy we are here.