It always surprises me when the Cdr returns from a cruise. It seems he expects me to forget everything I know unless he does not know it. :-) Even at those times he behaves as if he is failing in some way.
I have come to understand that I must defer to him when he first arrives home. He must assume all of the traditional men things on his return. I find it challenging to even put gas in my car since he watches my gauge closer than I do at first. I believe he is thinking he has not been doing "his job" as my husband. It does not matter how often I reassure him that is not the case but I understand he must arrive at that conclusion with no help from me. Fortunately, this does not last long since he comes to his senses very quickly and allows the logic of our life to come to him. Until that happens, I sit and smile and tell Chao lei how much I love his father.
Speaking of Chao lei; his father's return was not as in the past. This cruise there was not much opportunity for us to video chat and when he was able, Chao lei was asleep. Because of this lack of seeing his father the greeting at the dock was not as energetic as in the past. At the beginning, Chao lei was not sure of the man approaching us. You could see only a little recognition in his face. It was a "I think I know who this is but I am not sure" moment. Only when he heard his father speak did his face brighten and he reached out for him.
As for our relocation, there have been whispers of Europe. (insert confused face here) I was not aware of any US Naval bases in Europe. I do not wish to go to Europe. I know many Navy wives wish to see the world. I wish to go home to my country. There is much of it I wish to explore. I would be excited for Norfolk or Mayport.
ah well. I suppose I will make the best of where ever they send us. It is how it is done in the navy.
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